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Adoption Education

Adoption education is a key element in the process of adding a child to your family…especially from a foreign country!  Here are some excellent resources to help fulfill the education requirements for adopting through our agency:

On line education:

Adoption Learning Partners offers a variety of online courses that meet the Hague’s requirements for international adoption.
Adoption e-Learning Courses

Recommended reading:

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“A Parent’s Guide to Developmental Delays: Recognizing and Coping with Missed Milestones in Speech, Movement, Learning, and Other Areas” by Laurie Locoer.

Special education expert Laurie Locoer, M.Ed., provides parents with essential information, addressing important topics and uncomfortable questions on such issues as:
– Spotting the “Red Flags” of abnormal development
– Getting a diagnosis and treatment plan
– Obtaining the best treatment options, education, and help
– The keys to a successful, fulfilling life for every developmentally delayed child

Paperback, 304 pages,   Copyright: 2006,   ISBN-10:  0399532315

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“Parenting With Love And Logic” by Foster W. Cline and Jim Fay

Psychiatrist Cline and educator Fay’s “Love and Logic” parenting method advocates raising responsible children through practice. This approach to parenting encourages children to be self-confident, motivated, and ready for the real world. Children learn responsibility and the logic of life by solving their own problems. This book is HIGHLY recommended as well as others by Foster Cline and/or Jim Fay.

Hardcover, 271 pages,    Copyright:  1990,    ISBN-10:  1576839546

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“Adopting the Hurt Child” by Gregory Keck and Regina M. Kopeck

Fewer and fewer families adopting today are able to bring home a healthy newborn infant. The majority of adoptions now involve emotionally wounded, older children who have suffered the effects of abuse or neglect in their birth families and carry complex baggage with them into their adoptive families. Adopting the Hurt Child addresses the frustrations, heartache, and hope surrounding the adoptions of these special-needs kids.

Hardcover, 255 pages,    Copyright: 1998,    ISBN-10: 1576830942

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“Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow” by Gregory Keck and Regina M. Kopeck

In this sequel to their Adopting the Hurt Child (1998), Keck and Kopeck explore how parents can help adopted or foster children who have suffered neglect or abuse. They begin by outlining changes in adoption and fostering procedures in recent years and use case studies to document the friction and disruption introduced into a household when a hurt, adopted child is brought into the family. The authors examine attachment disorders and control issues as well as parenting techniques that work (praise, consistency, flexibility, anger management) and those that don’t work (punishment, withholding parental love, grounding, time-outs, deprivation). They highlight the symptoms of abuse and options for therapy. Foster or adoptive parents need to claim the role of parent in the child’s life, the authors advise, suggesting ways to deal with teachers and other authority figures in the child’s life.

Paperback, 295 pages,    Copyright: 2002,    ISBN-10: 1576833143

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“Building the Bonds of Attachment:  Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children” by Daniel A. Hughes

This is an excellent book concerning attachment issues with children. This book is for parents struggling with the very difficult problem of children being “unable to accept the love that they are given” because of the lack of early bonding because of neglect or abuse. Recommended highly by adoptive parents.

Paperback, 272 pages,    Copyright: 2006,    ISBN-10: 0765704048

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“Dialogue of Touch:  Developmental Play Therapy” by Viola A. Brody

Touch is essential for life, and what Viola Brody calls capable touching is the core of developmental play therapy, building both the self of the hurt child and his or her appreciation of the nurturing other. It thus makes way for dialogue between them and – as the dialogue becomes an organizing force for the child’s behaving and relating – facilitates healing and maturation. In recognition of the crucial importance of knowing how to be present with a child in a reparative role, Dr. Brody incorporates training in developmental play into the body of her book to provide therapists, teachers, and other helping professionals with the experience they need to understand and practice capable touching.

Hardcover, 400 pages,    Copyright: 1997,    ISBN-10: 0765700883

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“Attaching in Adoption:  Practical Tools for Today’s Parents” by Deborah D. Gray

Proper attachment is the most fundamental issue in a successful adoption, but what exactly does the term mean? Attaching in Adoption answers that question thoroughly, and it provides solutions to a variety of specific attachment problems.  Along with technical explanations of challenges such as self-esteem, childhood grief, and limit-testing, the book includes a tremendous number of personal vignettes illustrating attachment-related situations. Parents who are convinced that only their child has ever behaved a certain way are sure to take comfort in these stories; not only do they include kids from all backgrounds and age groups, but each has an ultimately happy ending. The emotional health of the whole family is also paramount according to the book–with plenty of rest and “alone time,” caregivers are more likely to be emotionally available when they are most needed.

Hardcover, 391 pages,    Copyright: 2002,    ISBN-10: 0944934293

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“Raising Adopted Children, Revised Edition: Practical Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent” by Lois Ruska Melina

In this completely revised and updated edition of Raising Adopted Children, Lois Melina, editor of Adopted Children newsletter and the mother of two children by adoption, draws on the latest research in psychology, sociology, and medicine to guide parents through all stages of their child’s development. Melina addresses the pressing adoption issues of today, such as open adoption, international adoption, and transracial adoption, and answers parent’s most frequently asked questions.

Paperback, 400 pages,    Copyright: 1998,    ISBN-10: 0060957174

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“1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12” by Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D.

This newly revised second edition provides a fine coverage of effective discipline choices to be used on children ages 1-12. From handling sibling rivalry and arguing to avoiding self-defeating syndromes and reactions, this covers everything from home to public behavior, providing parents with plenty of solid tips which work.

Paperback, 224 pages,    Copyright: 1997,    ISBN-10:  1889140163